This is fate: what does the day of his birth say about a person? Life path - Fate or chance Is it possible to predict how long we will live.
The famous French mathematician and astronomer Pierre-Simon Laplace, an attentive and systematic person, once remarked: if his night shoes were out of place, then street thieves always tried to get into his pockets that day. Such a coincidence could in no way be considered accidental. Almost every one of us at least once in his life has encountered the phenomenon of foreshadowing - a strange, but trifling incident that suddenly entailed a series of events that changed fate. How to decipher the signs of fortune?
He told an academic colleague about this, and they decided to conduct a series of control walks. What happened? If the shoes were in place, nothing happened. When the foreshadowing happened, scientists had to fight off a pack of pickpockets, who acted quite brazenly. The veracity of the sign was obvious.
Or other examples from history. The famous pirate Flint never went to sea unless his pipe was lit twice. And the naval commander, the Duke of Cumberland, ordered the carriage to turn home if, on the way to the port, he saw more than two chimney sweeps on the street. This marked a fierce storm. Another famous British sailor, Admiral Benbow, while still a simple captain of a ship, noticed that a red or spotted cat that ran across his path promised a sea catastrophe.
In appearance, the premonitions seem to be similar to signs, but they are not, - psychologist, gestalt therapist Oleg Nikitin explains the essence of the phenomenon. - After all, they are individual for each person. For example, you walk and stumble: once, twice, three times. Thus, something - call it fate, a guardian angel, a higher power, or the tricks of the subconscious - warns us to be careful, otherwise we will break a leg or get hit by a car. Small signs differ from signs or ordinary accidents in that they are often characterized by the repetition of the same situations, as if a person is tactfully reminded: “You don’t have to do this, otherwise it will be bad.” If he does not listen, the situation is repeated so that he understands that all this is no coincidence. If again he does not listen to the advice of fate, then the irreparable happens. And we sigh sadly: “Oh, why didn’t I notice before?”
Materialists believe that small signs are simply the result of life experience. Other scientists, however, are not so categorical in their conclusions - they believe that in critical situations people are helped by intuition or the ability to foresee events in the near future. But nevertheless, many researchers agree: in order to live successfully and happily, we must learn to perceive these good signs, highlighting them from the mass of events in everyday life.
Not always these forces can speak directly, communicate clear information, Nikitin explains. - They need intermediaries - events, objects. Sometimes the premonitions are specific. For example, some necessary thing is lost, small object. Then the loss is found, and we calm down. And this is a harbinger of some other, more important, irreparable loss.
For many centuries, specialists have been confronted with the phenomenon of signs. Numerous attempts have been made to somehow classify them. For example, the French researcher Robert D "Aubuisson even wrote treatise"Theories of Little Signs". But it turned out that this occupation is ungrateful, since no one has yet been able to “drive” the signs from above into some kind of framework. Therefore, it is best to try to understand them with specific examples, and then draw possible conclusions.
HOW THE SIGNS COME
Annoying Obstacles
According to the leader International Institute In positive psychology Denise Lynn, who is trying to understand this phenomenon, any familiar object that suddenly turns out to be in the wrong place can be interpreted as a sign. And he gives a very vivid example to prove it.
One businessman from the city of Adelaide (Australia) was going to sail on a packet boat to Bombay - and was late three times. The first time the alarm didn't ring. The second time, my beloved dog got sick and I had to wait for the vet. For the third time, the passport suddenly disappeared. And it soon became clear that the first packet was captured by Malayan pirates, the second disappeared without a trace, and a fire broke out on the third, killing half of the passengers.
Advice. It is necessary to draw conclusions from such stubborn and annoying obstacles: to reveal in time the repetition of forebodings. Then it is much easier to protect yourself.
Strangers talking
All the people you meet on your path - sometimes in the most mysterious way - carry messages for you. They, oddly enough, have the answer to your agonizing question. Even a casual conversation with a stranger at a bus stop can be incredibly rich in information.
For example, once Nikolai P. went from Moscow to Pskov to sell the house of his deceased parents. A very noisy man sat in the compartment. He kept trying to draw Nikolai into a conversation about politics, but he stubbornly pretended to be asleep. And suddenly the young man heard from a stranger a phrase that his father often repeated: "If you help the earth, the earth will help you." The neighbor was already telling another fellow traveler how he worked on the collective farm. Childhood warm memories of the village so flooded over Nikolai that he immediately decided not to sell the house, but in general to move from the capital to the province. So he did, and does not regret it.
Advice. Pay attention to the random words of a stranger and try to decipher the meaning of the message sent to you.
Feeling joy
An important signal is a feeling of joy, pleasure from what is happening to you. If you do something with delight, then this is a sign of fate that you are doing the right thing and going in the right direction. If there is a feeling of discomfort, then your solution to the problem is wrong.
For example, Anna D. was preparing to go on a sea cruise. She had been collecting money for the trip for more than two years, but when it came time to buy a tour package, she felt a strong reluctance to do so. Why - she could not explain. But she postponed the date of the trip, after which she breathed a sigh of relief. Imagine her surprise when, finally, having gone on a cruise, on the very first day she met a young man on the ship, whom she fell in love with and whom she happily married.
Advice. Listen to your emotions before making a decision. If your desire causes inconvenience and fear and there is an opportunity to refuse it, it is better to refuse.
printed word
Watch the printed words, look for signs in them. Pay special attention to those words that catch your eye over and over again. Printed words that carry a personal message for you can appear in newspapers, magazines, they can be written on posters and float on the TV screen. Those words that are your personal sign should either be constantly repeated in your life, or suddenly cut into your memory.
For example, Katerina R. wanted a salary increase at work. But she was afraid to even stutter about it, since she did not work long enough in the company. But one day, on the way to the office, she passed along a row of shops. They were always closed in the morning, but on this day, for some reason, all the closed doors had signs saying "Open". This word prompted her to think that the road was open to her. On the same day, she went to the boss, and her request for a salary increase was granted. She was told that if she had asked for a raise even a day earlier, she would certainly have been refused.
OTHER SIGNS
*If you meet a person who unusually reminds you of some acquaintance with whom you had problems in the past, then it's time to explain it to him. And, as a rule, this means that your wounds inflicted on each other have begun to heal.
*When you think about someone, it means it's time to get in touch with him. As a rule, this person expects a call or message from you. Even if you don't know why you need to contact a certain person, don't hesitate to do so.
* Any illness is an important sign of the work of your subconscious. Illness can be the body's way of letting you know about imbalances in your life, and conveying a simple message such as: “Don't rush, don't overexert yourself. Stop and look around."
* Lost glasses, keys or documents are not always signs of sclerosis or carelessness, but important omens. If you see that some household item is not where it usually is, then you should think about why this happened and what it could mean. Most often, it is possible to calculate a possible nuisance.
Quote from the book by Mikhail Stolbov
There are some universal clues from life that mean about the same thing for everyone.
I'll just list some of them:
· Problems with plumbing drains or garbage disposal - means problems with the elimination of unnecessary and obsolete; something is creating a blockage in your life, some situation needs to be released or changed.
· Short circuits or other wiring problems may mean that a major change is taking place in some area of your life, and you will be required to direct very soon extra energy exactly in this direction; be prepared for this in advance.
· Household fires of various scales (from small local to serious) indicate a global transformation of your way of life, consciousness or relationships that is taking place now. This is just such a case when everything old is eliminated instantly, and, willy-nilly, you just have to fill the vacant place with something new.
· Forgot the keys at home - look for new solutions to situations (the "keys" to the problems that you used before no longer work) - be careful!
A jammed door is a similar option, only here you already need to think about new approaches in your life and call the master to REPAIR the door, most likely, life wants to pay attention to new “doors of opportunity”, therefore it blocks the old ones.
Problems with the computer - it is worth considering whether you work too much in recent times? It's time to give yourself and technology a break. As a symbolic option: an incorrectly chosen tactics of thinking in some situation (a computer is the personification of logic).
· Phone or internet problems - your way of connecting with the world needs to be rethought. "Visit your parents!"
Current faucets for some symbolize imbalance in the sphere of feelings (which metaphorically means water), the same situation is symbolized by neighbors pouring water on you from above - emotions in your house are overflowing (neighbors are only an intermediary through which the Universe gives a sign).
· If the speakers of the music center fail - see what you do not voice out of your thoughts and are afraid to express them. It may also mean that something is preventing you from “lighting up” in life now (if you use a music center to listen to loud music to cheer you up). In this case, raise your vital energy!
Also pay attention to "random" encounters. There are so many roads in this Universe that it takes really good reasons for two seekers to cross...
Signs of Destiny. Why do we deny them?
Why do we not see the signs of fate and do not listen to them? How often do we hurry somewhere, but something interferes, hinders, and we try to catch up, to be in time ...
Here I am late for a meeting, my keys and gloves fall, I stumble on the threshold, a taxi is delayed, but I still run to catch a ride. And then the meeting takes place in such a way that it would be better if it did not exist at all ...
So I see how a guy in the yard angrily kicks the wheel of his suddenly stalled car and does not understand that this is for his own good, that they are holding him on purpose, not giving him the opportunity to end up in an unnecessary place ...
Or I freak out, getting into a huge traffic jam, and then it turns out that at that time a drunk and angry ex-husband was circling near my house ...
There are many such moments in life. Almost at every step. As if someone is sitting in heaven and whispering, warning at a dangerous turn, preventing trouble. We receive signs daily, but rarely pay attention to them. We do not see, we do not know how to recognize them. And if we see them, we often reject them ourselves and do not want to listen to them.
I am not superstitious, no, I do not believe in omens, but signs are different ... Sometimes such moments happen, insignificant, invisible to others, but for you - like a conditional, warning signal.
For example, you meet a person for the first time, and everything is fine, everything is wonderful, you are delighted with each other! You are great on the phone, on the Internet away from each other, but when you are going somewhere together, something happens: the car breaks down, you suddenly have urgent business, he suddenly has a migraine attack, you repeatedly postpone meeting. And when, despite everything, you meet and are going to go to a predetermined place, you get lost along the road and wander for a long time, not finding the right turn. You both end up getting tired and heading home, embarrassedly agreeing to postpone the trip until later.
He leaves, you climb in hot bath and be sad, thinking about the “law of meanness”, about strange difficulties and obstacles on your way with him ... And he calls after 20 minutes and says that the place where you were going to go is very close. It was found as soon as you broke up ... You are offended, annoyed, but ... Why is this not a sign? But you stubbornly continue to meet, not paying attention to all these delays and troubles, which are many. Sometimes you wonder: why is that? But you attribute everything to chance, bad luck, coincidences ... And after a while this person brings you so much heartache, so much trouble and negativity that you never dreamed of even in a nightmare ... And then you begin to remember what laughed and wondered at the very beginning.
Or I’m going to the doctor and I understand that I don’t want to go there today, I just can’t, my legs don’t go, inside there is a terrible, inexplicable, incomprehensible fear. I leave the house, I am immediately doused with dirty spray by a passing car. I'm in a hurry to change, I'm late and decide to postpone the visit, but one of the good relatives insists: "It's for your good, it's not surprising that it's scary, but it's necessary, understand." I succumb to persuasion, and on this day the doctor makes a mistake that costs me dearly.
But mental discomfort is a very clear sign. If you need to make a decision, no one knows better than the inner "I" what needs to be done. Why don't we listen to this voice, why don't we want to listen to ourselves and to what is happening around us?
"If they do not believe you and do not listen to the voice of the first sign, they will believe the voice of another sign." There are such words in the Bible. The sign has a voice. Each sign speaks of something, warns, points to something, so that a person pays attention. God is giving these warnings if you are on the line of change in your life.
A sign is a kind of agreement with God, with what is inside you, you know, right? This is a protection that is given from above, because God wants a person not to go down the wrong path.
The Prophet William M. Branham says that if you do not receive the Holy Spirit, tribulation is inevitable. The Holy Spirit is your soul, it speaks to you, it gives you signs, don't reject them! Therefore, the prophet, preaching the sermon "The Sign", so focused on this.
Everything that happens to you is, one might say, a hint of the quality of the future. If it is associated with unpleasant sensations, inspires fear, anxiety, discomfort, then this is a signal of a negative turn of events. If you have already paid attention to it, then you should not neglect it. Maybe he warns that you need to be more careful or radically change your behavior, or completely stop, or choose a different course of action.
If the plan does not give in in any way, strange obstacles appear, and things move with a creak - maybe you have chosen a dead end path and you don’t need to go there at all? If you try, but in vain, then this is a sign from above. God tells you: don't, do something else or leave this person - you will not be happy with him. And for women, instinct, I must say, very often unmistakably tells: not your man. Why don't many people listen?
You want one thing, and you do another, you want to quit your unloved bookkeeping and go to study as a designer, but the age is not the same. At the same time, you constantly see signs around you and make sure that your true calling is really not in what you do. But they tell you what to do, and you do it because you have to ... Why should you?
We forgot that the freedom of choice involves not asking and not doing, because it’s supposed to be, but listening to your “I” and going and taking it.
If thoughts come that you are not living your life, something does not suit you, that there is no joy that you had before, do not drive them away, thinking that this is an attack of depression. No, this is not depression, this is also a sign that something needs to be changed, this is your inner “I” trying to get through to you.
Do you need to make an important decision? Stop and listen to yourself. If the decision has already been made, remember how you felt when you made it. Were you "good" or "bad"? If the decision was given with difficulty, if there was a depressing state, then this is definitely “bad”. In this case, you can safely change your mind.
Common sense often drowns out the whispers of the soul. The mind always tries to substantiate and prove its case. Here you are faced with a choice: the soul tries to timidly object, the mind hears what the soul says, but pretends not to hear and insists on its own, relying on “sound reasoning”.
After reading these lines, put them in the bowels of the subconscious, and the next time you make a decision, remember them. You will be convinced that everything happens exactly like this. Yes, you yourself know, just do not think about it.
Of course, it is worth noting that the more exciting an event is for us, the more importance we attach to everything that happens around it. Of course, sometimes we see not signs at all, but simply a manifestation of what is in this moment concentrated. The Law of Attraction says that you are a magnet and attract into your life that which is in harmony with your desires. Have you noticed more than once that it is worth thinking about a person, how does he call or do you accidentally meet him?
As soon as you decide to do something, signs appear and everything that occupies your thoughts is attracted into your life. But if these signs negative character and you have to convince and persuade yourself, which means that something is not right ... So, the soul is against it. If the soul does not mind, you do not have to persuade yourself. The soul does not think, it feels and knows. Listen to yourself and your heart.
Especially carefully you need to pay attention to desires and actions that can change life and destiny. If the desire causes inconvenience and fear and there is an opportunity to refuse it, it is better to refuse. This will get rid of many problems. This desire does not come from the heart. If you ignore the discomfort, then very often you have to regret it later.
Only you yourself can decipher and notice your signs. You will understand everything if you observe yourself and the world around you. The main advantage of signs is that they are able to awaken in time and make it clear that you may be acting to your own detriment. By beginning to consciously listen to them, you will gain strength and develop an intuition that has no limits, just like the human brain as a whole. And the power of positive emotions and harmony with oneself are already capable of changing life for the better.
Tatiana Gribanova
Once we nearly died as a family. Let's go on New Year's holidays to Pskov on a fresh snowball. Already about a hundred kilometers from Moscow, my husband lost control of the road out of the blue, the car was thrown into the oncoming lane, and we stood across the road. Five hundred meters away, a KamAZ was flying at us. The collision was avoided by a miracle: the engine started up quickly, there was no interference on the right side of the movement. Then shock, hysteria and ruined vacation. But then friends consoled: “That's it, Sveta, you are no longer threatened with road accidents. The bomb does not fall into one funnel.
Falling down! How it falls! Almost a year later, in the summer, at the same place, however, already in a friend’s car, we were again thrown into the oncoming lane, then four meters of flight, and we ended up in a ditch. They saved the reliability of the jeep and the swamp into which they fell.
What is this - a mere coincidence? Or does fate write only one life scenario for each person, without inventing other options for the development of events? And then the bomb can hit my "funnel" more than once? But this is contrary to the theory of probability!
"LAW OF PAIR CASES"
Not at all, - parapsychologist Oleg KUNCHI disagrees with me. - The well-known proverb about the projectile has recently been questioned by physicists and psychologists, who write quite seriously about the "law of paired cases." According to this law, one situation after some time models another, similar one. For example, experienced doctors know that if a patient dies in a hospital department, then a second death must be expected in the next day or two. And if a person with a rare diagnosis is admitted to the hospital, then another such one will soon appear.
According to one version, repeated situations are constructed by the person himself in his brain at the subconscious level. For example, as in my case, if a person once got into a car accident, then he begins to constantly think about it and about the possibility of a new emergency. This is how a thought form is formed, which seems to materialize and give rise to the next accident. Or if a patient dies, then the whole hospital will know about it, and the thought of death and fear of it begins to circulate in hundreds of heads. As a result, the "collective unconscious" fills the entire space of the clinic, like invisible thunderclouds, thickens over another very weak patient and "kills" him, releasing a strong electrical discharge. Psychologists call this the “electrified atmosphere effect.”
THE SHAMAN'S CURSE
In history, one of the most fantastic regularities has been called the "curse of the Indian shaman Tekumze." According to legend, the old sorcerer sent misfortune on all American rulers elected in a year ending in zero. So it was indeed noticed that US presidents pass away before the expiration of their powers. Either they are killed (Lincoln, Garfield, McKinley, Kennedy), or they die of illness before their presidential term ends (Harrison, Roosevelt, Harding). Only Reagan, elected in 1980, was lucky enough to survive the assassination attempt. So Bush, Jr., who came to power in 2000, has something to think about.
There were mysterious fatal coincidences in the life of the last Russian Emperor Nicholas II. The number 17 became fatal for him and the entire Romanov family in general. It was on October 17, 1888 that the royal train crashed near Kharkov. Only a miracle then saved the family of Alexander III from inevitable death. During the coronation of the emperor on May 17, 1896, the well-known Khodynskaya tragedy occurred, during which 1389 people were crushed to death and another 1300 were injured. It was on October 17, 1905 that the Manifesto on the Improvement of the State Order was signed, limiting the absolute power of the monarch. In 1917, well-known events began that ended with the usurpation of power by the Bolsheviks. And even the regicide itself took place in Yekaterinburg on July 17 (according to the new style), 1918.
Even notorious materialists sometimes take doubts that all this is a game of probability, which is entirely on the conscience of the roulette that runs our lives. Therefore, many outstanding minds have tried to explain the mysterious coincidences.
ALL IS A PART OF THE WHOLE
The outstanding Renaissance philosopher Pico della Mirandola, who considered all objects in the world to be part of a single whole, which sometimes separates and sometimes reconnects, pondered over the solution to the coincidences. The materialist philosopher Thomas Hobbes argued in 1665 that even the result of throwing a die is natural. And we cannot predict it just because we do not have all the information.
In the 19th century, Arthur Schopenhauer denied coincidences and believed that they are the result of world harmony, which leads to the intersection of human destinies.
One of the founders also tried to figure out the problem. quantum physics, Nobel laureate Wolfgang Pauli, who for this purpose joined forces with the eminent psychologist Carl Gustav Jung. Pauli formulated the key principle of theoretical physics, according to which two particles cannot be in the same quantum state. Jung is known for his theories about the collective unconscious. In interpreting coincidences, Pauli and Jung produced a hybrid of their theories by publishing Synchronicity, or the Principle of Random Connection. The Pauli-Jungian theory interpreted coincidences as manifestations of an as yet unidentified universal principle that binds together all physical laws.
FROM THE ARCHIVE "KP"
encrypted code
This case entered the annals of all intelligence agencies in the world. Shortly before the Allied landings in Normandy in 1944, a crossword puzzle was published in the English newspaper The Daily Telegraph, the answers to which were deeply encrypted codes of a key operation during the Second World War. Right down to the name - Overlord. All British intelligence raided the newspaper in search of a German super spy. It turned out that the crossword puzzle was a simple school teacher.
OPINIONS
skeptic
Where is the math?
In all these interesting stories there is no main thing: a statistically reliable analysis of the probability of such coincidences, says Oleg GORBUNOV, Candidate of Physical and Mathematical Sciences. - No one has yet weighed absolutely all the factors that influenced the possibility of the same cases happening to one person.
ENTHUSIAST
Bake a cherry pie
Physicists do not yet know everything about the structure of our world, - says psychologist Andrey GORYUNOV. - So, any hostess will confirm that in a cherry pie, the berries are never evenly distributed. This phenomenon in probability theory is called the cluster effect, when independent objects tend to cluster together. It turns out that coincidences are inevitable, just not a single smartest mathematician can predict them.
What is the good will to die? How to explain the mystery of clinical death? Why do the dead come to the living? Is it possible to give and receive permission to die? We are publishing fragments of a speech at a seminar held in Moscow by Andrey Gnezdilov, psychotherapist, MD, honorary doctor of the University of Essex (UK), founder of the first hospice in Russia, inventor of new methods of art therapy and author of numerous books.
Death is part of life
In everyday life, when we talk to someone we know and he says: “You know, so-and-so died,” the usual reaction to this is the question: how did he die? It is very important how a person dies. Death is important for a person's sense of self. It is not only negative.
If we look at life philosophically, we know that there is no life without death, the concept of life can only be evaluated from the standpoint of death.
I somehow had to communicate with artists and sculptors, and I asked them: “You depict various aspects of a person’s life, you can depict love, friendship, beauty, but how would you depict death?” And no one gave a clear answer right away.
The researcher says that a person's life is like perennial, which always comes back to bloom again in the multiverse. Everything that we see exists thanks to our consciousness, the scientist believes. Robert Lanza emphasized that people believe in death because they are taught that way, or because the mind associates life with the functioning of the internal organs. Lanz believes that death is not the absolute end of life, but is a transition to a parallel world.
One sculptor who immortalized the siege of Leningrad promised to think about it. And shortly before his death, he answered me this way: "I would depict death in the image of Christ." I asked: "Is Christ crucified?" “No, the ascension of Christ.”
One German sculptor depicted a flying angel, the shadow of whose wings was death. When a person fell into this shadow, he fell into the power of death. Another sculptor depicted death in the form of two boys: one boy sits on a stone with his head on his knees, he is all directed downwards.
In the hands of the second boy, a flute, his head thrown back, he is all directed after the motive. And the explanation of this sculpture was as follows: it is impossible to depict death without accompanying life, and life without death.
Death is a natural process. Many writers tried to portray life as immortal, but it was a terrible, terrible immortality. What is endless life - endless repetition of earthly experience, stoppage of development or endless aging? It is difficult even to imagine the painful state of a person who is immortal.
Death is a reward, a respite, it is abnormal only when it comes suddenly, when a person is still on the rise, full of strength. And old people want to die. Some old women ask: "Here, it's healed, it's time to die." And the patterns of death that we read about in the literature, when death befell the peasants, were of a normative nature.
When a villager felt that he could no longer work as before, that he was becoming a burden on the family, he went to the bathhouse, put on clean clothes, lay down under the icon, said goodbye to neighbors and relatives, and died peacefully. His death came without the pronounced suffering that occurs when a person struggles with death.
The peasants knew that life is not a dandelion flower that has grown, blossomed and scattered under the wind. Life has a deep meaning.
This example of the death of peasants dying, giving themselves permission to die, is not a feature of those people, we can find similar examples today. Once a cancer patient came to us. A former military man, he behaved well and joked: "I went through three wars, pulled death by the mustache, and now it's time for her to pull me."
Of course, we supported him, but suddenly one day he could not get out of bed, and he took it quite unambiguously: "That's it, I'm dying, I can't get up anymore." We told him: "Don't worry, it's a metastasis, people with spinal metastases live a long time, we'll take care of you, you'll get used to it." “No, no, this is death, I know.”
And, imagine, in a few days he dies, having no physiological prerequisites for this. He dies because he chose to die. This means that this good will for death or some kind of projection of death takes place in reality.
It is necessary to give life a natural demise, because death is programmed at the moment of conception of a person. A kind of experience of death is acquired by a person in childbirth, at the moment of birth. When you deal with this problem, you can see how intelligently life is built. As a person is born, so he dies, easily born - easy to die, hard to be born - hard to die.
And the day of death of a person is also not accidental, like the day of birth. Statisticians are the first to raise this issue by discovering the frequent coincidence of people's date of death and date of birth. Or, when we remember some significant anniversaries of the death of our relatives, it suddenly turns out that the grandmother died - a granddaughter was born. This transmission to generations and the non-randomness of the day of death and birthday is striking.
Clinical death or another life?
Not a single sage has yet understood what death is, what happens at the time of death. Such a stage as clinical death is left almost without attention. A person falls into a coma, his breathing stops, his heart stops, but unexpectedly for himself and for others, he comes back to life and tells amazing stories.
Natalya Petrovna Bekhtereva recently died. At one time, we often argued, I told cases of clinical death that were in my practice, and she said that this was all nonsense, that changes were simply taking place in the brain, and so on. And once I gave her an example, which she then began to use and tell herself.
I worked for 10 years at the Oncological Institute as a psychotherapist, and one day I was called to a young woman. During the operation, her heart stopped, they could not start it for a long time, and when she woke up, I was asked to see if her psyche had changed due to the long oxygen starvation of the brain.
I came to the intensive care unit, she was just coming to her senses. I asked: "Can you talk to me?" - "Yes, but I would like to apologize to you, I caused you so much trouble", - "What trouble?", - "Well, how about it. My heart stopped, I experienced such stress, and I saw that for doctors it was also a lot of stress.”
I was surprised: “How could you see this if you were in a state of deep drugged sleep, and then your heart stopped?”, “Doctor, I would tell you much more if you promised not to send me to a psychiatric hospital.”
And she said the following: when she fell into a drug-induced sleep, she suddenly felt that it was as if a soft blow to her feet made something inside her turn, like a screw is turned out. She had the feeling that the soul turned inside out, and went out into some kind of foggy space.
Looking closer, she saw a group of doctors bending over the body. She thought: what a familiar face this woman has! And then she suddenly remembered that it was herself. Suddenly a voice was heard: "Immediately stop the operation, the heart has stopped, you need to start it."
She thought that she had died and remembered with horror that she had not said goodbye to either her mother or her five-year-old daughter. Anxiety for them literally pushed her in the back, she flew out of the operating room and in an instant found herself in her apartment.
She saw a rather peaceful scene - the girl was playing with dolls, her grandmother, her mother, was sewing something. There was a knock at the door, and a neighbor, Lidia Stepanovna, came in. In her hands she had little dress dotted. “Mashenka,” the neighbor said, “you tried all the time to be like your mother, so I sewed for you the same dress as your mother.”
The girl happily rushed to her neighbor, touched the tablecloth on the way, an old cup fell, and a teaspoon fell under the carpet. Noise, the girl is crying, the grandmother exclaims: “Masha, how awkward you are,” Lidia Stepanovna says that the dishes are beating fortunately - a common situation.
And the girl's mother, forgetting about herself, went up to her daughter, stroked her head and said: "Masha, this is not the worst grief in life." Mashenka looked at her mother, but, not seeing her, turned away. And suddenly, this woman realized that when she touched the girl's head, she did not feel this touch. Then she rushed to the mirror, and in the mirror she did not see herself.
In horror, she remembered that she had to be in the hospital, that her heart had stopped. She rushed out of the house and found herself in the operating room. And then she heard a voice: “The heart started, we are doing an operation, but rather, because there may be a second cardiac arrest.”
After listening to this woman, I said: “Don’t you want me to come to your house and tell your family that everything is in order, they can see you?” She happily agreed.
I went to the address given to me, my grandmother opened the door, I told how the operation went, and then asked: “Tell me, did your neighbor Lidia Stepanovna come to you at half past eleven?” know her?”, “Didn’t she bring a dress with polka dots?”, “Are you a magician, doctor?”
I keep asking, and everything came together to the details, except for one thing - the spoon was not found. Then I say: “Did you look under the carpet?” They pick up the carpet and there is a spoon.
This story had a great effect on Bekhtereva. And then she herself had a similar experience. In one day, she lost both her stepson and her husband, both committed suicide. For her, it was a terrible stress. And then one day, entering the room, she saw her husband, and he turned to her with some words.
Recently, a dispute has begun in our society about the legality of euthanasia, and euthanasia is outside the Russian practice of healthcare and law. We don't have a law that allows killing. Neither active nor passive euthanasia is permitted by the current code of medical ethics. We do not have any public or administrative mechanisms to control such practices, except in cases where we can talk about the dishonest actions of medical workers. But we have individual activists who are trying to score points in their favor by shocking the public with certain facts or, even better, photographs of seriously ill patients and even children with intrauterine developmental disorders. Of course, "representatives of the public and the media" with great enthusiasm rushed to discuss the topic of killing handicapped, disabled, preferably babies, in order to free up additional resources and save the nerves and free time of "unfortunate" parents.
She, an excellent psychiatrist, decided that these were hallucinations, returned to another room and asked her relative to see what was in that room. She came up, looked in and recoiled: “Yes, your husband is there!” Then she did what her husband asked, making sure that such cases were not fiction.
She told me: “No one knows the brain better than me (Bekhtereva was the director of the Institute of the Human Brain in St. Petersburg). And I have a feeling that I am standing in front of some kind of huge wall, behind which I hear voices, and I know that there is a wonderful and huge world, but I cannot convey to others what I see and hear. Because in order for it to be scientifically sound, everyone has to repeat my experience.”
Once I was sitting next to a dying patient. I put the music box, which played a touching melody, then asked: "Turn it off, is it bothering you?" - "No, let it play." Suddenly her breathing stopped, the relatives rushed: "Do something, she is not breathing."
I rashly gave her an injection of adrenaline, and she again came to her senses, turned to me: “Andrei Vladimirovich, what was that?” “You know, it was clinical death.” She smiled and said: “No, life!”
What is the state into which the brain passes during clinical death? After all, death is death. We fix death when we see that breathing has stopped, the heart has stopped, the brain does not work, it cannot perceive information and, moreover, send it out.
So the brain is only a transmitter, but is there something deeper, stronger in a person? And here we are faced with the concept of the soul. After all, this concept is almost supplanted by the concept of the psyche. The psyche is there, but the soul is not.
How would you like to die?
We asked both the healthy and the sick: "How would you like to die?". And people with certain characterological qualities built a model of death in their own way.
People with a schizoid type of character, such as Don Quixote, characterized their desire rather strangely: "We would like to die so that no one around sees my body."
Epileptoids - they considered it unthinkable for themselves to lie still and wait for death to come, they should have been able to somehow participate in this process.
Cycloids - people like Sancho Panza, would like to die surrounded by relatives. Psychasthenics are anxious and suspicious people, worried about how they will look when they die. The hysteroids wanted to die at sunrise or sunset, on the seashore, in the mountains.
I compared these desires, but I remember the words of one monk who said this: “I don’t care what will surround me, what will be the situation around me. It is important for me that I die during prayer, thanking God that He sent me life, and I saw the power and beauty of His creation.”
Heraclitus of Ephesus said: “A man on his deathly night kindles a light for himself; and he is not dead, putting out his eyes, but alive; but he comes into contact with the dead - dozing, awake - comes into contact with the dormant, ”is a phrase over which you can puzzle almost all your life.
Being in contact with the patient, I could arrange with him that when he died, he would try to let me know if there was something behind the coffin or not. And I got this answer, more than once.
Once I made an agreement with one woman, she died, and I soon forgot about our agreement. And then one day, when I was in the country, I suddenly woke up from the fact that the light came on in the room. I thought I forgot to turn off the light, but then I saw that the same woman was sitting on the bed opposite me. I was delighted, started talking to her, and suddenly I remembered - she died!
I thought that I was dreaming all this, turned away and tried to fall asleep in order to wake up. After a while, I raised my head. The light was on again, I looked around in horror - she was still sitting on the bed and looking at me. I want to say something, I can't - horror. I realized what was in front of me dead man. And suddenly she, smiling sadly, said: "But this is not a dream."
Why do I give such examples? Because the uncertainty of what awaits us makes us return to the old principle: "Do no harm." That is, “do not rush death” is the most powerful argument against euthanasia. To what extent do we have the right to interfere with the state that the patient is experiencing? How can we hasten his death when he is perhaps experiencing the most brilliant life at this moment?
Quality of life and permission to die
It is not the number of days that we have lived that matters, but the quality. And what gives the quality of life? The quality of life makes it possible to be without pain, the ability to control one's consciousness, the opportunity to be surrounded by relatives and families.
Why is it important to communicate with relatives? Because children often repeat the story of the life of their parents or relatives. Sometimes in the details, it's amazing. And this repetition of life is often also a repetition of death.
The blessing of relatives is very important, the parental blessing of a dying child to children, it can even save them later, save them from something. Again, returning to the cultural heritage of fairy tales.
Remember the plot: the old father dies, he has three sons. He asks: "After my death, go to my grave for three days." The older brothers either do not want to go or are afraid, only the younger, a fool, goes to the grave, and at the end of the third day, the father reveals some secret to him.
When a person passes away, he sometimes thinks: “Well, let me die, let me get sick, but let my relatives be healthy, let the illness end on me, I will pay the bills for the whole family.” And now, having set a goal, no matter rationally or affectively, a person receives a meaningful departure from life.
A hospice is a home that offers a quality life. Not an easy death, but a quality life. This is a place where a person can end his life meaningfully and deeply, accompanied by relatives.
When a person leaves, air does not just come out of him, like from a rubber ball, he needs to make a leap, he needs strength in order to step into the unknown. A person must allow himself this step. And he receives the first permission from his relatives, then from the medical staff, from volunteers, from the priest and from himself. And this permission to die from oneself is the most difficult.
You know that Christ, before suffering and praying in the Garden of Gethsemane, asked his disciples: "Stay with me, do not sleep." Three times the disciples promised Him to stay awake, but fell asleep without providing support. So the hospice in the spiritual sense is a place where a person can ask: "Stay with me."
And if such a great personality - the Incarnate God - needed the help of a man, if He said: “I no longer call you slaves. I called you friends, ”addressing people, then following this example and saturating the last days of the patient with spiritual content is very important.
There is a very interesting proverb in , which I really like: "The case is the pseudonym of God when he is not willing to sign with his usual name." Accident, accident… So what is it all the same? What does chance have to do with fate? Or is it one and the same? Often, when something happens to us in life, we wonder what is taking place here, fate or chance?
In one of my articles, I already wrote about. Our whole life is full of accidents. Sometimes they are small and insignificant, as it seems at first glance. And then, later it turns out that it was one such accident that radically changed our lives. I think everyone in life can find such an accident, that insignificant event, thanks to which we ended up in the current life situation.
Ours are so small that it is not entirely clear how one small incident can change the entire course of life. I am not comfortable with the idea that fate or chance can control my life and dictate rules and direction to me.
As soon as a person has a goal to achieve something, it is the goal to achieve, and not just a dream. When you clearly know and are sure that you will achieve your goal, then a chain of such accidents will serve as a road on the way to the goal. It is later, when the goal has already been achieved, we look at every accident, on the path we have traveled, as a door that opened up certain opportunities for us, brought. 
Exactly so, and not otherwise. We, being at the current point of space-time, perceive these doors on the way to opportunities as accidents; we can only realize their whole essence when we arrive at the destination. Each of us is endowed with this unique power that allows us to work miracles. It is she who manifests herself as fate or chance. We are the limitless possibility.
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19 11 2010 | therabbit-hole
Artists sometimes say, “I myself would never have painted such a picture. My hand was controlled by the hand of God (or the creator, or the universe, or someone else).
I wonder if they know something that we do not know, or is it some kind of fashionable PR move?
Reply 19 11 2010 | chronicler
They don't know it, and neither do we... But it's easy to feel. We have all been creative in some way. If this creativity gives you pleasure, then in fact it creates the feeling that someone is leading you. After all, when you just sit down for a project, then in your thoughts there is nothing but the title of the idea. But as soon as you start, everything goes by itself - information goes on and on, just in a continuous stream. All creative people experience this.
Reply 20 11 2010 | Jasmine
Fate or not, but the smallest and most insignificant accident can have serious consequences.
This is told in the 2006 film "Babylon" http://filmjourney.ru/vokrug-xaos-vokrug-vavilon/
Reply 20 11 2010 | chronicler
That's right. Interesting film
Someone without hesitation accepts everything that life gives him, while the other reads the signs around and waits for the most important event in his life, not noticing that she is passing by, and everything positive that happens to him is already a great miracle. To believe or not to believe in omens and predestinations of fate is everyone's personal choice. The main thing is moderation at all, even in such a belief. There are coincidences that have haunted people since childhood, you don’t always pay attention to them, you usually remember them much later, when everything has already happened, but they exist and it’s pointless to pass by, as well as to get hung up on it.
I believe - I do not believe
To believe in something, including in your life path prepared by fate, you need to have a well-developed intuition. Not everyone has it. At the same time, it is necessary not to forget that what you may consider a sign of fate is, in fact, an accident that took place. Some people believe that there must be a balance of power in the universe, and if it is disturbed, then it needs to be urgently restored. In order for a person to understand this, the Universe itself sends him special signals. Someone sees them, believes in them, and also follows the instructions, changing their lives and restoring the necessary balance of power in the world. If you are identified as the person who believes in fate, in the destiny of everything, as well as in the signs of fate, then the main thing for you should be the ability to see the sign and understand it. Further it is already easier - you just follow all the signs, thereby changing your life.
If you do not believe in such things and do not even try to see and recognize the signs of fate, then you are most likely a materialist who believes only in your own strength and ability to independently change your destiny. This is not bad at all, perhaps even a hundred times better to decide everything yourself and without looking back, to create your own life with your own hands, than to wait for some incomprehensible sign from nowhere. It is definitely easier for such people to live, but sometimes you really want fate to smile, and her smile, most often, is hidden precisely in the signs of fate. I think the most best option- is to see all the signs, but to follow them or not, still decide on your own, not to rely on fate in everything, because fanaticism in such matters has never led to anything good.
Coincidence or chance
Many people, not believing in signs, believe that this or that event is just a coincidence or a combination of circumstances. But if such events are repeated in your life more than once, then you should not take them as an accident, most likely, the Universe wants to reach out to you or convey something. There are cases in life that we consider to be already accomplished events that should be feared, but in the end it turns out that this was only a warning of a more significant danger.
For example, in my life there was a case when a thief tried to get into our apartment, but I somehow scared him away and he ran away, taking practically nothing. As a family, we thought that we miraculously managed to avoid robbery, fortified the castle and forgot about this incident. But some time passed and our cottage was robbed. It was on that day that our dog was not in the yard either, which we gave to our friends for hunting. It turns out that the first robbery attempt was some kind of warning from above about what happened next. It is these signs of fate that are difficult to distinguish and recognize.
Quicker everything in life each of you has such coincidences, which are very difficult to classify and notice at once. After some time, looking back, we understand that this or that event was significant in our life, but then we passed by without noticing and not understanding what the Universe is trying to tell us. Very often such coincidences or significant events ( how to know?) happen in the fates of two loving people whose fates are connected. For example, people met, fell in love with each other, but for some reason, their life paths diverged. After a few years, they met again and now are not ready to let go of each other forever. Now they are sure that they are made for each other and their first meeting, like the second, was not accidental.
What place in our life should the signs of fate occupy?
It is very important that every person understands that such signs can both exist in reality and be fictional, a person who believes in them can simply accept ordinary events and coincidences as signs of fate. If you do not get hung up on the fact that this or that event in our life speaks of something or points to the most correct path, then you can easily distinguish a real omen from a fictional one. There are frequent coincidences in life of any numbers, dates of birth, names, cases of returning to one and the same place, person. In general, a lot of coincidences or accidents ... who knows? A person usually begins to pay attention to this much later, when he compares all the events together and draws a certain line.
Psychologists say that basically, people who sincerely believe in fate and its signs are simply very afraid of independence in life. They do not want to make important and responsible decisions that will have a significant impact on their lives, and therefore they try to focus on such signs. This speaks of their inner uncertainty about everything, about their unwillingness to leave the image of “I am a child” even in adulthood. It is unlikely that an adult will run around with his eyes wide open and look around for signs of fate and omens. No one says that you can’t believe in wonderful coincidences, unexpected meetings and unplanned acquaintances, you just need to be guided by the principle: “Whatever happens, everything is for the best.”
